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Contemplating?

Is that what I'm doing?

I suppose so. My mum threw me a lot of questions today which I have no answer to them. Well, not exactly no answer, it's more like I'm not too sure about the answer.

Thinking Hard.

Thinking Slow.

Wish me Luck

10 virtually instant ways to improve your life

This is an article adapted from LifeHack.Org. I came across this article when I was google-ing "How to Improve Life". Why this all of the sudden? Why did I want to improve my life? Isn't it good already?


Well, I have gone through ups and downs in my life (who hasn't?) and somehow along the way, there were 'contamination' and I would just like to go for 'detoxification'. I want to improve my life mentally at the moment. The way I have been living now is not exactly a 'healthy' way, so I feel it's just time to make a change. There is no harm in improving your life. This should be the way!! Improving your daily life makes it so much more meaningful. 


You can view it here too! 


So here goes the adapted version.

• Stop jumping to conclusions. There are two common ways this habit increases people’s difficulties. First, they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption instead. Human beings are lousy fortune-tellers. Most of what they assume is wrong. That makes the action wrong too. The second aspect of this habit is playing the mind-reader and assuming you know why people do what they do or what they’re thinking. Wrong again, big time. More relationships are destroyed by this particular kind of stupidity than by any other.
• Don’t dramatize. Lots of people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and react accordingly. This habit makes mountains out of molehills and gives people anxieties that either don’t exist or are so insignificant they aren’t worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important. Whatever the reason, it’s silly as well as destructive.
• Don’t invent rules. A huge proportion of those “oughts” and “shoulds” that you carry around are most likely needless. All that they do for you is make you feel nervous or guilty. What’s the point? When you use these imaginary rules on yourself, you clog your mind with petty restrictions and childish orders. And when you try to impose them on others, you make yourself into a bully, a boring nag, or a self-righteous bigot.
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• Avoid stereotyping or labeling people or situations. The words you use can trip you up. Negative and critical language produces the same flavor of thinking. Forcing things into pre-set categories hides their real meaning and limits your thinking to no purpose. See what’s there. Don’t label. You’ll be surprised at what you find.

• Quit being a perfectionist. Life isn’t all or nothing, black or white. Many times, good enough means exactly what it says. Search for the perfect job and you’ll likely never find it. Meanwhile, all the others will look worse than they are. Try for the perfect relationship and you’ll probably spend your life alone. Perfectionism is a mental sickness that will destroy all your pleasure and send you in search of what can never be attained.
• Don’t over-generalize. One or two setbacks are not a sign of permanent failure. The odd triumph doesn’t turn you into a genius. A single event—good or bad—or even two or three don’t always point to a lasting trend. Usually things are just what they are, nothing more.
• Don’t take things so personally. Most people, even your friends and colleagues, aren’t talking about you, thinking about you, or concerned with you at all for 99% of the time. The majority of folk in your organization or neighborhood have probably never heard of you and don’t especially want to. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and coldness of others, aren’t personal at all. Pretending that they are will only make you more miserable than is needed.
• Don’t assume your emotions are trustworthy. How you feel isn’t always a good indicator of how things are. Just because you feel it, that doesn’t make it true. Sometimes that emotion comes from nothing more profound than being tired, hungry, annoyed, or about to get a head-cold. The future won’t change because you feel bad—nor because you feel great. Feelings may be true, but they aren’t the truth.
• Don’t let life get you down. Keep practicing being optimistic. If you expect bad things in your life and work, you’ll always find them. A negative mind-set is like looking at the world through distorting, grimy lenses. You spot every blemish and overlook or discount everything else. It’s amazing what isn’t there until you start to look for it. Of course, if you decide to look for signs of positive things, you’ll find those too.
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• Don’t hang on to the past. This is my most important suggestion of all: let go and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you’ll feel and the bigger they’ll look. Don’t try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you’ve removed just about all its power to hurt you.

A Little About The Author of this Article

Adrian Savage is a writer, an Englishman, and a retired business executive, in that order, who now lives in Tucson, Arizona. You can read his other articles at Slow Leadership, the site for everyone who wants to build a civilized place to work and bring back the taste, zest and satisfaction to leadership and life. Recent articles there on similar topics include How to save yourself from being hooked again and Why fear of failure is the most common blockage to success. Adrian’s latest book, Slow Leadership: Civilizing The Organization, is now available at all good bookstores.

People that make a difference in my life

Hi peeps!

I haven't been very consistent with my blog post, sorry about that. But I guess there's not much readers anyway, so I think I'll just update whenever I can.

Few weeks ago, I have been in this very down mood. Partly because I didn't do too well in my finals, got the results and it was not something that I am proud of. In my defense before anyone start criticizing, I did the best I could. Guess it wasn't enough?!? Oh well, no fret! I shall just do better the next time round. My second chance won't come until next year, so it'll be pretty hectic for me next year as it'll be my final semester for this course. Another reason would be --- thinking of how life would be after graduation (though it's about a year from now).

As I finish each semester, I will think of how long would I take to graduate. But miraculously, last semester what I thought was "when did I started this course?". It was July 2009. How long has it been? 2 years. Time flies, don't you think? With a blink of eye, I'm in my final year, waiting for myself to achieve and graduate with a degree! (FINALLY!) All this while, I have been saying that I prefer working than studying, but as I approach the working life(as in PERMANENTLY working), I think I'll prefer studying. You can have all the fun you want in the world and no one cares about you. You can skip classes if you want (not advisable though), and you can be late for classes and enter from the back door. Can you do all those when you're working?!? NOPE. What you'll get as punishment might just be embarrassment or probably pay cut, well it depends I suppose.

I wonder how life would be after we graduate? My dear bunch of friends which made my life in Sunway colorful. All of us will be heading to different directions. This is gonna be exactly how it was when I  left INTI. Everyone is spread across the globe pursuing their career.

Great Combination of Life

Friends are essential in life. They make a difference in your daily life and true friends will stand by you regardless of what the circumstances are.

Hometown Peeps!

Although my friends/classmates are younger than me but they are good people with pretty matured thinking. When I thought I would be mixing around with a bunch of kids (no offence but this is really what I thought when I first joined Sunway), they amazed me! Don't judge a book by its cover! True enough! I heart you girls a lot!!!!

Sunway Buddies!

I saw an article somewhere before, relating to friendship. It says that you don't have to be sad if your friends leave you because they have done their duty in your life. Why are friends here? Because there are around to guide us through difficulty and assist us. Instead of getting pissed at them, we should be grateful to them. Once their duty is done in your life, just like guardian angels, they will leave and head on to another destination or another person to guide them. The article was pretty meaningful. Will try to find it and post it up here.

Inti Peeps! 

In different stages in life, you meet different people. Though there are vague memory of my friends from kiddy garden and primary school, but just want to thank you all for being there for me. As I grew up and met more friends in high school and college days, I enjoyed myself with your company. Without you guys by my side, I doubt I can make it through those days. I seldom keep in touch doesn't mean that I have forgotten about you guys k? It doesn't work that way.

Lovely Girls! (Sorry KY, don't have another pic)

Alright, enough of it already. Till then peeps!

Picked Pocket

To tell you the truth, I have never been so furious with some stranger before this day.

But why today?

The sole reason to that question is: Pick Pocket!

So here's how it goes.



My brother was in KL Sentral this evening to catch a train back home. And guess what? Some blarddy Malay bastard stole his phone. My brother managed to punch him and stop him, but too bad, the bastard has already passed the phone to someone else. I think my brother should have punch his balls instead!

My brother even shouted "Pencuri! Pencuri!" but to his dismay, no one came and help. See how selfish Malaysians are? No one gives a shit about you. 

So here's the BEST part. My brother manage to get some policemen to help him out. The policemen search that bastard's body and can't find the phone...and...those fellas let him go!!!!!!

This is where I don't understand.

Earlier, after the incident, I called my Dad and told him about it. He called the Brickfields police station and told them what happened. The police there told him that my brother should have went to the "pondok" to seek police assistance, and Even If The Police Can't Find The Phone On That Bastard, They Can Still Bring Him (Aka The Bastard) In For Questioning!!!!!! Plus If Don't Admit, They Can Counter Check With The Cctv!

So, what the f*ck just happened at the station? 

THE POLICE LET HIM GO!!!! Smart asses right? Seriously! WTF are they doing? No wonder there is no way to curb such crimes in M'sia because this is what they do! Let culprits walkaway! Fantastically Great Job! 


I'm seriously very disappointed with the Malaysia police force. My brother is too. I told him to not expect too much from them. There are more disappointments on the way. This is just a small matter. I think we aren't the only ones. I have lost my faith towards them long long time ago.

Look at the case of the Acid Splasher. What are they doing about it now? Yeah...photofit produced and all, but is he nabbed? No yet right? Sigh. Look at those victims. They are much more in pain than we are.

I believe Malaysia police force can do better, what happened to the police force that we used to look up to when we were young kids? What we have studied in the books are not exactly true, aren't they?

Well, this will actually make me very low, but I don't give a shit at this moment.

"To those blardy bastard that stole my brother's phone, may you guys trip and fall flat on your damn f*king face! That's right! It will be so misshaped, even your goddamn parents also can't recognize you!!!!!" 




Toodles! 


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P/S: Bro, if you're reading this. 

Don't be too sad about it. 

Something new awaits for you. Love ya lots! 

勇敢

My FIRST paper for this semester's finals will kick off in less than 12 hours. 

::勇敢::Bravery:: by A-Mei

I'm studying but I just can't help it as this song kept on playing in my head.

A close friend of mine sang this song in a Taiwan Competition, Superstar Avenue 7 - that's how I came across this song. As many of you may know that I'm not a big fan of Chinese songs, so it's very rare that I can addicted to these sorta songs.

Jess Lee sang this song with much feelings and emotions. I won't deny that I teared a bit when I watch her on television. I think my eyes will get watery every time I listen to this son. The original version by A-Mei does the same effect also, probably with even more emotions. Meaningful song I would say.
Just love it!!

Jess Lee's Version

A-Mei's Version

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It takes a lot of courage to make the first move.

Once the you take the first step, 

the following steps will not be as hard.

Shall I take the path not taken?

Or should I just stay on this path?

There are just too much risk. 

I'm risk adverse.

Confused.

亲情 :: FAMILY

I was talking to this friend of mine from INTI last time and he sorta makes me think of this:-

 "What if today is the last day of my life?"

Would you want to live with regrets? Definitely NO right?

Talking with him reminds so much of those good old days back in college when I was doing A-levels. I wish time could just turn back and let me relive those moments. I'm not saying that my Sunway friend are not good or anything, they are fantastic people; just that I miss those time...that feeling I have.

There are so many things to explore in this world and there are so many dreams that I would very much like to go after, but with certain circumstances, I'm unable to do so at the moment. After those words, it sort of inspired me to go after what I want. So for this 2011, I hope that I can achieve those that I have listed down.

亲情 means FAMILY. There's a saying in Chinese which I learn when I was in standard one but I only got the meaning after several year. 亲情深似海, means FAMILY RELATIONSHIP IS AS DEEP AS THE SEA. Which is totally true. Family will never dump you aside and not care for you, they'll always be there for you and support you all the way.

Staying at home and spending time with my mum made me realize that I have missed out so many things at home. Not being able to stick around for long, and only during weekends, I can't seem to feel the warmness in it. But somehow, this study break just gave me a wake-up call. My family is always there for me. Regardless of what the circumstance are, they are always there. I miss my Mum's cooking so much!!! It's just irresistible! ( I bet almost everyone will agree that their own mum's cooking is the best in the world wide world, right?)

Live your life to the fullest. 

Enjoy without worries (of course don't go overboard). 

Be yourself and live with no regrets. 

A Blood Pressure Away...

It was just another ordinary Friday, after lunch, I went back to get some stuff and accidentally left my phone in the car. I was too lazy to go get since I'll be going to get my brother in like 15 minutes time.

I was just too tired that day, and when I was about to doze off, a phone call woke me up. (Yeah, we have a house phone.)

It was my Dad!!!! The news that he brought me just struck me that instant, right straight to my heart. He told me that my Mum was admitted to the hospital. She had very high high-blood-pressure :: 210!!!!

That moment, I was in the midst of clearing my thoughts. Was I in a nightmare? *Pinch* Nope! I'm definitely not. There were a lot of things running through my mind.

To be honest, my mum is a very healthy person. She exercise regularly, eat really healthily too! She doesn't eat oily stuffs, only lean meat. She was even a vegetarian for almost 20 years before she got too weak without enough nutrients.

I just grabbed everything and rushed to the car. The moment I got my phone, I saw 6 messages & 6 Miss Calls. Before I get to read any of the messages, Piggy called. He told me that alot of people are looking for me. I teared the moment I heard that. I was so afraid that something will happen to my mum. I just can't think straight anymore. For a whole 2 minutes, I just sat in the car, crying...I called my brother and told him I'm coming to get him.

Long story short, Piggy got off work early and all of us went back home straight. It was seriously very scary to hear that my mum was admitted. It took us about an hour plus to reach S'ban, just in time to get into the hospital before their visiting hours are over. I have no idea where to go to, so I consult the Emergency Unit people which lead me to the guards. The guards were not helpful at all, instead they were really utterly rude! Damn U Biatch! Instead of helping me, I got scolded. So yeah, I found my way to the ward where my mum was treated. 

I saw my aunt sitting there, waiting patiently for her. After some time, I got to know that mummy was getting her eyes checked as she got headache and blurry vision. I managed to talk to her and I would really like to thank that doctor for doing check ups for my mum even though it's after working hours. Thank You.

Merely after that, mum was brought down to the semi-critical ward. The doctors checked her blood pressure and saw that it has gone down to 138 (still high but much lower than before), they discharged her. And I was relieved. She was too. She doesn't like to stay over in the hospital.

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With what have occurred that day, I got to see how much my brother cared for my mum. He was very very worried. So was I. Both of us was just in despair and lost. Piggy was there to comfort us.

Taken during CNY short trip to PD. 

Mummy, regardless of whatever it may be, all of us will be there for you. Be strong k? I love you a lot. Really really a lot. All of us love you a lot.

Appreciate whatever you have in front of you. 


I'm really thankful that my mum is better now. Thank God!  

I'm Back!...with BANGS!!!

I have been away long enough now.

So here's my new look! Got my bangs about a month ago. Took this photo while I was on the way to the Cleo's Most Eligible Bachelor 2010 @ Mist Club Bangsar.

Well, I have been meaning to update this blog for a real long time but somehow a rather, Google Chrome just didn't allow me to do so. Well, not to say GC didn't allow, it's more like, GC detected this malware on my site, so even if I update it, it'll have no function since it's deemed to be dangerous. Oh well, I guess it's over now. They have finally sort thing out?!?

I miss blogging so so much! Whenever I wanna burst, I'll just reach out here but during those few months, I have no where to go. I sourced my fear, anger...etc..into my little diary. But I was lazy to write, so I decided to draw my feelings out instead. Probably it just didn't make sense but I feel better after that. In fact, it's a lot better.

I'm no artist or what-so-ever, it's more like I have this thing for cute little emoticons or stuff like that. I love graphic design a lot. Before venturing into this course of mine, I considered about graphic design. But due to unforeseen circumstances, I have no choice but to let go...yet again another dream of mine to pursue something that I like. So...yeah! It's alright I suppose. Probably it's for the better good.

Anyway, so I created another blog which enables me to only upload things that I drew...in class...or it's more like scribbles on my notes. It's nothing much. Have a look! You might find it entertaining at times, or probably irritating. It's all up to you. If you like it, stay with me; if you don't, it's alright. I understand. Thanks thanks!
*Psst... Feel free to make any comments that you like alright? No harm done. I need improvements too! =) I will really appreciate them too!

Check it out at GwenArt

Manny HAPPY!

Happy Chinese New Year! Have a Great Rabbit Year!!!!

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Happy Valentine's Day!!!!!

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Happy...Happy Birthday MUMMY!!!!

(There's a lot of B'day this month, 

but the most significant one is my mum's, 

so I'm wishing her here. Love you mummy!)

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What 11.1.11♥ ?

Whilst at office today, I was keying in the date and notice that today is 11th January 2011 @ 11/1/11

When I came back home and login to facebook, I saw a lot of people putting "11/1/11 ♥".

I used to take all these days seriously. Like making a wish or pencil it down somewhere so that I would remember these dates. But somehow or rather, I lost interest in it. Part of growing up? Or is it just me.

I wish I would be blogging about something HAPPY for the first time in 2011 but I'm just not exactly in the mood to do so. Anyway, I don't think many people read this blog, so it doesn't really matter. For those earthlings that read, a BIG THANK YOU! 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Have a GREAT 2011!

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There's so much to write, so much, in fact it's too much to talk about. One day...one day I'll talk about it.